This week did not fly by like the others. It clunked and clawed and left muddy footprints through the days. Just when you think you have the steps memorized, have the rhythm worked out you end up on a dance floor without a clue what to do.
Friday though Sunday Jeff was away speaking at a camp with 48 kids from different Young Life areas in Scotland. In America I would have stopped the juggling act of different hats to go with him. Giving the mom hat to a grandma to wear and donning only a ministry one. Here, we aren't quite at the place were we can leave three life loving boys with someone else for more than a couple hours. So, I stayed and prayed for the kids and leaders instead. The boys and I took trips to the forest, did Saturday football and visited the Dundee Science museum. Those are the things I take pictures of to remember and share with family back home. And on homesick days we sometimes go through the virtual photo album on my phone. On the hard days, the remembering is so important.
Jeff came home on Sunday evening. In time to go to our dear neighbor's funeral on Monday. The neighbor with twinkling eyes, and knowing smile. The one that shared a similar story to my dad. And clouds formed in my heart and head that seemed to muddle all the good things that are given each day. The things I can usually see and give thanks for.
Jeff left again long before the sun came up Tuesday. This time for an all staff conference in England. Another thing in America and with the help of grandma's I would have gone to. And now Thursday night, the week almost complete I am surrounded by the balls I have dropped. Two sick kids, three very important phone calls missed, late to pick up Ian twice, late to pick up Levi once, and a parking ticket today. Laundry is still sitting in piles and dishes have yet to be washed and put away in the same day. The desk I paint at has sat empty and I have eaten scones almost every day (my new comfort food).
Hours ago I sat down defeated, and pulled up the photos. Ian sitting next to me and put out a finger to slide the pictures one by one. By the fifth picture Levi stopped playing Legos and came over to see, and not long after Luke leaned over to get a look also. The pictures start with all of us standing in front of the mountain of luggage we had packed to move here. Ian slid his finger past our first weeks here, walking and exploring. Past our first trips to Dundee, and Perth. Through the countless playgrounds and forests trips. Their school, and new friends, the Monday night group of Young Life kids, and night of fireworks with neighbors. He slowed as he reached to the last ones taken. The trip to the bay.
I had forgotten I had even taken him there after school on Tuesday. I forgotten I had snapped pictures and then given him the phone to capture images. My heart and head were still heavy. Heavy with Ian's questions of why did God have to make germs and sickness anyway. If He was God why didn't He make the world where people didn't get sick and die?
But the trip to the bay quieted the questions of why for both of us. I didn't know I was about to flop through the week in a clumsy dance. In those pictures I clearly remembered how amazing an artist God is. That in one rain dropped leaf I see more evidence of God than a thousand answered questions. The goodness of God is surrounding us, His gifts are given daily. I just can't always see them as clearly. My kitchen still holds the treasures of the trip. Sandy stones, and sticks still drying out, bit of bark and a twig of berries to draw later. The phone flashed low battery and the boys dispersed, Ian saying, "I love our life, and I love when you are late to pick me up because it means I get to look at books!" Learning to thank God for the days I know the dance and the days I stumble through in His grace.
Jesus -- "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." 2 Cor 12:9
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
And a month can go by in a blink. You know when you are getting settled when routines that seems so unreal become familiar. I still love that I cross over the Firth of Tay when going to get groceries. One minute I am pulling out of our sleepy little town and the next I am driving over a four lane bridge stretched over two miles of water. The bridge with a speed limit that changes with how strong the wind gusts are. Dundee is on the other side and it seems as if I am entering another world.
The boys know and still enjoy the schools they are in. They wake up at 7 am, uniforms on, breakfast, and teeth brushed. By 8:30 am shoes and coats are on. 8:40 am helmets and backpacks are on and we wave good bye to Luke and Levi on their bikes (or Levi often catching the school van) By 8:45 I am already heading to the door with Ian to take him in the opposite direction to his school. Then there are three hours for phone calls, emails and meetings for Young Life. Mondays are Young Life game nights. On Tuesdays I get an hour and a half Greek lesson from Bob, my neighbor. Wednesdays are training days. Thursdays are one on one meetings. And on Fridays I have been painting instead of writing a blog post (sorry about that). Jeff's days are like mine but ten times busier with pastors, head teachers, committees, and students. It is all becoming more familiar as we grow deeper into the community around us.
Maybe that is why it seems more important to explain just what that community is. So here goes. We are in the Burgh Wormit, If you look at the first map we are the last blue circle on the left that is on the waters edge. You can see the rail bridge to the left and then the town next to us on the right, Newport. Newport has the road bridge that I cross over to get to Dundee and groceries. Further over to the right is Tayport. These are called the Taybridge area in Fife. Each of these three areas have their own Primary school. Kids from age 4 to 11/12 are in primary school. Then, when these students are done with Primary School they will take double decker buses to St. Andrews to go to Madras College. Madras College is really a Secondary school (think American middle and high school combined). St. Andrews is the big kidney bean shape at the bottom of the second map. This is where we are starting Young Life, Madras College. We have been working with a small group of Madras students that live in the Taybridge area and training University students that attend St. Andrews University. It may all seem very far away on the map but St. Andrews is only 10-12 miles away. That is twenty minutes driving in Scotland weather and on their smaller roads.
We are getting more familiar with each of the areas as we zig zag through our days. The more we get settled and enjoy where God has planted us the more we are feeling some pangs of homesickness. Pictures of our friends, family, and even friends pets make us sigh. A sigh mixed with remembering, and missing. In a perfect world we would smush Scotland and Virginia together in a big happy family. Phone calls home make us weepy and grateful. The connecting with friends and family is harder than we thought it would be. As the world here grows bigger and deeper in our hearts we are having to figure out how to carve time out of our nights to call or write home. The homesickness is hard but there is so much to be grateful for.
Tonight at dinner Luke and Levi described again why school is so amazing. How welcoming their classmates have been, and how much they enjoy their teachers. Ian pipes up to say, "I can't wait to be in Primary one! Next year I will get to finally have a desk and work! This year I just play and bake cookies and do art", insert frown and Luke and Levi laughing and shaking their heads. And school is such a big part of their world right now, so I cannot even begin to tell you how much this encourages Jeff and I. Here is a picture of the boy's schools. Luke and Levi's is on the left. Those huge windows look out over the Tay Estuary and the train bridge crossing over it into Dundee. The field is where they spill out of the school to play on each day from 12-1 pm. Sometimes Levi will bike home only to change and bike back again to play football (soccer) with kids who don't want the day to end just yet. Ian is standing under a mosaic at his school. He will be there just for this year, and it is only a town over. Next year he will be at Wormit Primary with a desk and big work to do!
Friday, September 26, 2014
This past weekend I was able to go to a Young Lives retreat. The young moms were from Perth and Dundee and the leader is one of the first Scot to take me around town, out for a proper cup of tea, and ride shotgun while I was still hitting curbs. The weekend was filled with learning about the truth of God's love, grace, and forgiveness. We also got to go on one of the largest zip lines and ropes courses I have ever seen. I am not afraid of heights and love adventure, but my palms were sweating and my heart was pounding as we zipped over towering pines and stepped out onto tight wire stretched between posts.
And that is how life feels right about now. Up higher than what feels relatively safe, and staring down at what use to be a normal walk in the woods.
So here is what has stayed the same. We are tied in securely to Christ. The only reason I would have climbed that high and jumped and swayed through the course is because I was harnessed and clicked into a safety line. I started the course knowing if I fell I would be caught. It made the leaping a whole lot easier. And even though it feels like we are zipping through life at a million miles an hour, He still orders our days. He has hemmed us in before and behind.
I still fiercely love my family and friends back home. To leave them was incredibly hard. To be here feels easier than I thought it would be. I know that we are exactly where we are suppose to be. There are few times in our lives that we have felt the pieces click into place so securely. And we have felt a tremendous amount of grace in the transition. But when I creak open the boys doors and give them one last kiss goodnight my heart can ache and I can wonder why we are doing this so far from the people we love. So far from the ones who helped us understand what a family is. Christmas is coming and I know my dad and mom's visit will have to wait. I hear my sisters laugh and see pictures of growing nieces and a nephew and it is enough to make me forget that the heart ache is a gift. To be homesick means we were lucky enough to have had a home. A place that was filled with laughter and shared memories. Parents, grand parents, sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts, and uncles that helped mold and shape us.
I am still trusting that God will use us because we are willing and not because I have turned into a better version of the American me. I still breakout, talk too much, day dream even more, and play Lego's when I should be doing laundry. I think being placed in completely new surroundings can make you realize your shortcomings in a new way. And that can make even the most playful and spirited person feel insecure and quieted. We have learned to not take ourselves so seriously in this season. Humility goes a long way in a new country and culture. And it is way less painful when we remember where our worth and purpose comes from.
So as we learn words like full stop (a period at the end of a sentence), lug (ear), kitchen roll (paper towels), plasters (band-aids), and jotters (notebooks), we are also learning that the best parts of life have stayed the same.
"Love must be honest and true. Hate what is evil. Hold onto what is good. Love each other deeply. Honor others more than yourselves. Never let the fire in your heart go out. Keep it alive. Serve the Lord.
Thursday, September 11, 2014
All the fields around us are changing. The skies are getting bigger as the land shrinks. It is harvest time for wheat and barley and Ian knows all about the harvest thanks to his Nursery 4 teachers. For two days the combine and tractor rumbled back and forth as Ian explained why the farmer was harvesting. "Soil was broken up and flipped over, then seeds were planted, rain watered the broken earth and seed and small plants appeared. Next, he says each time with his teacher voice, the plant grows and grows and grows, and when it is tall enough, the farmer knows it is time to harvest." I sound amazed each time he recounts this information because I truly am. Watching it all unfold in front of me while I do dishes and prepare dinner helps me soak in the miracle of it, how something can start so small and then grow into something so big and vast.
And I can't help to think about our small little burgh of Wormit. Small enough to pass the same people on bike rides and walks. Small enough to pass through the whole town on a ten minute bike ride. Maybe a fifteen minute ride if your enjoying the scenery.
But this small patch of earth has had many seeds planted. While there may be a distinct absence of youth workers in Wormit and the surrounding burghs, there is not an absence of prayer. When we arrived we had already gotten to know several people through emails and phone calls. People that had stood in the gap of hope and faith and prayed for the next generation to know life in the fullest. They prepared the way for us to come and settle and call this place home. I have been convinced over the past few years that God wastes nothing. He is not a God of waste. All the time spent with hands feeling tied and feet stilled we were also praying. At time it felt the only thing moving was our mouths mustering up small prayers to a big God. And the entire season of what felt a lot like waste was really a season of sowing seeds.
We are starting to have weekly meetings now. There are some pretty amazing people that came to camp and now to Monday nights. They all go to Madras College (the catchment secondary school for the surrounding areas, think USA 7th grade-12th grade.) and they show up to play games, eat large amounts of ice cream and talk about life. It is a small group of ten or eleven. But man is this time sweet. It is hard not to think of the small shoots we saw growing in the field across from our house when we first arrived. Remembering how they grew a little higher each day. And now we have watched a large harvest be cut and collected. Truck load after truck load of grain that grew right before our eyes.
Please continue to pray for our family as we transition. Jeff is playing tennis on Sundays and attending lectures on Thursday nights at St. Andrews University. I am hoping to start and art club and take some art classes near by at a newly opened community art center. All these things are helping us to better know the community we are being planted in. The boys are still loving school and are making friends. Ian even dug up potatoes at school today and brought them home to cook for "tea" (what they call dinner here in Scotland). Thanks for all the love and support we feel every bit of it an ocean away.
"Farmers who wait for perfect weather never plant. If they watch every cloud, they never harvest." Ecc. 11:4
Had to add this last picture. Here in Fife, we recycle everything! The brown bin is for food waste and yard clippings, the green is plastics and tin, the small blue one is for trash that cannot be recycled and the black is for cardboard and paper. In the USA we use to fill a bin larger than the black one in one week with all our trash. Now it takes two weeks to fill the small blue one! Luke is the recycle sorter and he is thrilled with that chore.
Friday, August 29, 2014
We are still readjusting to life in a small village in Scotland. This phrase alone makes it sound hard and exhausting. It is not, it is actually pretty amazing so far. We are clearly smitten with the land, culture, and people of Scotland. Everyone tells me this is the honeymoon phase and that harder days are coming. I believe them a hundred percent. But during this season of fully embracing our new home I will explain a few things that have made this move easy and how our lives look different than before.
Number one, FREEDOM. We all have wheels of some type. Whether borrowed or bought. We have also never lived in a house that you can just walk outside hop on your bike and end up at a rivers edge, bay, or corner shop. Luke bikes everywhere. Even to school and back. Levi can walk to the corner store alone, or to a friends house and back. Ian, well Ian still has to stick with me. But he gets to ride his scooter to pick plums or blackberries after preschool and he loves that. The village is small and everyone knows or at least can recognize you. When I meet someone on the bay and I tell them I live in 2 The Beehives house, they smile and say oh yes, that is where you are, I always see you doing dishes. There is only one church in Wormit, one restaurant, a blacksmith, a hair dresser, a small corner store and post office. In Culpeper, VA we drove EVERYWHERE, had many shopping and eating out options but only rode bikes at the park or walked in the woods behind our house. We had two neighbors we could walk to, now we have a whole village to get to know by foot, bike, or scooter. There is something about passing someone face to face and being able to stop and talk that has been such a fun way to get to know kids and families.
Number two, RECESS! The boys absolutely love school. They also loved their school in Culpeper. The school day here however starts an hour later and has a twenty minute morning break and a full hour of outside recess (picture the whole school pouring outside to the big green field to play last man over, sleeves up, and all of the other games they have yet to learn. They also have far less homework and are not tested (think SOLs) until Secondary 2. That would be our equivalent of 9th grade. They seem to be at the same level and have not complained of feeling far ahead or behind (except in cursive and handwriting). They do wear uniforms and instead of not liking them, they love not having to figure our what to wear each morning. They also have outside and indoor shoes for school. Floors stay clean and the janitors here must be happy about that. Ian is in Nursery 4 and spends the majority of time there outside. They trek to the bay, and local farms, and even have a forest academy where they all don jumpsuits and head out to the forest to learn.
Number three, RISK! The playground and outdoor setting here offer adventure and risk. Ian totters up tall climbing towers, the boys swing on huge rope loops, they jump from mound to mound and fly down some of the tallest slides I have ever seen. Scotland playgrounds look more like a training ground for vikings. Or a outdoor retreat center to work on fears or team building. The playgrounds are where I have met the majority of moms and grandmas I know. The local hub for young people and I love that my boys have never asked "when are we leaving?" as we talk.
John 10:10 "The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy; I have come that they may you have life, and have it to the full." Jesus
Saturday, August 9, 2014
Once visas were in and Jeff was with us again I had time to reflect on the last month. I realized again how grateful I am for my parents and sister. I am the youngest of three, so I grew up very aware of just how much they helped usher me through life's tougher moments. My sister ate my peas, told me about life, and helped me match my socks. She still is the calm I may never grow into. My mom was and still is a bundle of life and joy. She taught me to pray for joy as my strength, not a happy heart, but a rich joy from being rooted in God's love. She could run a small country and will talk to anyone. My dad help formed some of my earliest memories of the God who made me. A wild, untamed God, full of love and mercy and forgiveness. He taught me not to be afraid of people's mess. To not be afraid of my mess. They made life easy to live out, to grow up into. All the fearful awkwardness of it. I know that is a gift many do not get.
And so when we said goodbye this time there were less tears. They have always been excited for our chance to live out our calling, whether in Culpeper, VA or Wormit, Scotland. We said goodbye to my dad while he was still in the hospital. Fluid retention around the gut was slow to come off kept him in longer than any of us hoped. The boys and I sat on the edge of his bed and prayed for him and then he prayed a blessing over us, releasing us back to Scotland. I called from the airport during our layover to see if the liver test came out okay. I stared out into the night as we flew further away and I put a shaky heart in God's hands. Even if you know you have held a rare gift for so long, it still does not make it easier to lay down. Material things are easy to let go of, but handing over the ones we love feels a little trickier. Do I trust the God who knit my father's heart together? Yes. Does my heart ache in the goodbyes and the not knowing? Yes, in a messy, heavy way, that doesn't make it all feel okay.
We landed feeling as if we came home. We drove through our town and parked the car and ran in yelling "We are HOME." And it feels so right and great to be back. We all feel it. The clicking into place of something good and real. Wormit, Scotland is exactly where we are suppose to be. We ran to the bay and stayed up way too late as the tide rolled in. Today we went to the church's soup lunch and said hello again to many of the people we have met on our trips to the bay. I took some soup home to deliver to my neighbor who I had heard was ill while we were away. Knocking on his door, I saw him struggle to get up and open the door. I sat nervously, knowing I was already acting completely American visiting so soon after getting back and while he was ill. He told me he was in the hospital for two and a half weeks. Almost the whole time we were away. He was in because he had fluid on his gut and legs and it was slow to come off. I listened as he shared how hard it was to be away and wait to come home. And I shared with him about my dad an ocean away walking out the same hard lesson. Our lives are in His hands, and His hands alone. Every chapter. We both were amazed at the similarities to how much fluid they are allowed to drink a day to the different medicines they have been on. I left with a lighter heart. To trust that God has the exactly the right people to shape and change us into His image. To show us how to be His hands and feet to the world around us.
We ended our day with a trip to Tentsmuir Forest. The boys got soaked in the North Sea, smiling and shivering. We remembered all the beach trips with Mimi and Papa and cousins, toes all digging in the sand. Luke asked if I thought Papa would get to see all this. How beautiful it all is. Get to feel how much this is our home too. I answered what I hoped but didn't know. We got home sandy and wet and to an e-mail that he is finally home from the hospital. How sweet it was to read those words. On the way to church tomorrow, I will knock on my neighbor's door to tell him an answer to prayers that included his. They both will sleep in their own beds tonight, an ocean away but with the same grateful hearts.
Please pray for my parents as they plan a trip to come out to see us for Christmas. He is released to come if he is able. We are praying that he will get to see this land we call home and meet all the people who have opened their hearts and homes to us.
We begin work again on Wednesday, working with the youth of Wormit and NE Fife. School here begins August 20th and the boys are ready!
"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another." John 13:34&35 ESV
Sunday, July 20, 2014
|How we really felt about flying|
We woke the boys at 5am and drove through the wet countryside. Walking into the Edinburgh airport under a large banner that said, you are home now. Goodbyes, security, the long wait to board. Luke and Levi are now pros at flying and Ian did amazingly well this time. Seven and a half hours playing games, play dough, and Lego's on a small food tray. We watched Mr. Peabody and thumb wrestled. We ate two meals and Ian went to the bathroom six times. The poor man in the aisle seat got a proper leg stretching each time he had to let us out. We landed in Newark, and oohed and ahhed over the American food options. Customs, more security stop points, another long wait, and onto the smallest plane I have ever flown on. My parents were at the luggage claim smiling and hugging and asking how it all went. Ian never cried the whole long day, 5 am Scotland time until 6 pm American time. And within the first hug it felt right, home is where your heart is, and my heart was with my family again.
Because this past week was filled with Visa appointments, paperwork, pictures, applications, and the final trip to the post office to mail them off. It has been filled with stressful moments and not enough sleep. My parents helped me with the boys and calmed my fears of doing it all wrong. Jeff and I squeezed in talks after dinner and late into his nights. Moments filled with His grace do not always feel graceful. I have had a week of clunky, messy, falling apart grace. But this part is done, packaged up and mailed away. And now we get to wait, pray, and enjoy a little bit of time to say hello to the family and friends we just said good bye to.
There is a place near our home in Wormit that we can walk to. We go past four or five houses, cross the street, and follow the gravel path under a stone tunnel that the train passes over. We then walk past the hill top playground and down some steps to the bay. Just before we left we traveled further down river's edge while the tide was low. There are small cliffs that jut out that you can easily climb. At the middle of one there is a spot big enough for three boys to lay down on a large tuft of grass and look out over the river. The tide comes back in little waves and they rush over the smooth rocks and piles of kelp. We spent an hour once just watching the tide lap in. It is a place of being still and knowing.
"Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10 My mom and dad have quoted that scripture to me growing up more than any other. Their child with an anxious heart and wild dreams. It is easy to be still and know He is God on blanket of grass overlooking His creation. It is painfully hard to do it with life spilled out in paperwork and cranky boys. But His commands and promises are not conditional. They are not dependent on our surroundings or frustrations. So we are waking up each morning praying for our hearts to be still and to know He is God. He is God in the post office line and at the computer. Together as a family and when we are separated by an ocean. And our hearts and minds can be still because of this. We get to pick up Jeff from the airport on Thursday, a happy reunion. If all goes well, the visas for the boys will be in and we will head back to Scotland the first week of August. Thank you for all the prayers as this transition time stretches a little longer. We know that in the seasons of stretching we are being humbled and equipped for what is next. And from the little bit we got to experience so far in Scotland, we are really excited to see what is in store.
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
The weeks leading up to the move to Scotland could only be described as a whirlwind of chaos. I knew it would be, but knowing it does not give you a ticket out of living it. My sister swooped in to help tie and tidy all the lose ends. We set off, two vans packed to the brim with luggage and kids. Four adults and five kids. Good byes at the airport and loading carts, a quick security check, and last minute snack purchases. All went so smoothly, surely this would be a gracious experience. The plane took off and all was well with team Stables. Even little Ian, charged up with steroids because of a breathing issues, was a happy camper. Then the bottom fell out.
In our walks and exploring we soon found the Scottish nettle (on the left). It leaves a nasty sting and depending on how you react to it, a rash and large welts. Not fun. We talked to some Scots who were not sure why God created it in the first place. But then we learned a equally important fact. Almost always near the nasty Nettle grows the dock plant. You can pick the dock leaves, crumpled them, and rub them into the nettle sting and it gives almost immedient relief. We have now gotten to test this on Luke and Ian. It really works.
This week Ian has had fewer breakdowns. He says hello to people and yells he loves Scotland as he zips down a playground zip line. Luke is trying to figure out if he can become a true Scotsman and stay forever. He is already saying his a's differently after the camp week. Levi is running into every new experience with a big smile and bright eyes. (Well, except for trying haggis.)
We feel unbelievably blessed by our life here. Our church, friends, and neighbors have been a comforting and encouraging community. I feel like all these little comforts of home, relationships, and surroundings have clinked in like a perfect jigsaw piece. And so thinking of packing up the boys and I for an unexpected trip home is a bit of a heartache. But a good one. I will travel back with three boys and a thick envelope to fix visas and visit family until the paperwork is in order. Jeff will meet us for the last weeks, and we will all travel back to our new home in Wormit by mid August. Jeff is staying the first two weeks to continue the work that was started last week at the first ever YL Taybridge camp. It has been a wild couple weeks of nettles and docks. But we are so grateful God places us where we are suppose to be. And that He plants dock plants near the nettles.
Please continue to pray for us and our many unexpected travels. For Ian's little heart and mind to adjust to all the changes. I firmly believe this all happened for a reason. Miscommunication, misstep, and visa havoc are not out of His control. We are trusting that this too will become good in His capable hands. And as much as we will love our early reunion with family and friends we will have already begun the countdown to come back to our new home in Scotland. Thanks for following along! Internet is officially in the house so the blog will be back up and running!